Social connection is a vital part of the human experience. Since the beginning of humankind, communities have been essential for survival—helping us share resources, protect one another, and nurture future generations.
Yet today, despite being more "connected" than ever through technology, loneliness is at an all-time high. In 2022, nearly half of all U.S. adults reported feeling lonely. And loneliness doesn’t just impact our emotions—it affects our physical health too. In fact, chronic loneliness increases the risk of early death at the same rate as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
When we isolate ourselves, we lose a fundamental part of what makes us human. But why is loneliness so prevalent, and how can we fight it?
Why Is Social Isolation on the Rise?
Several societal shifts have led to a decline in face-to-face interactions and an increase in social isolation.
1. The Rise of Screen Time
American political scientist Robert Putnam, founder of Social Capital Theory, suggests that screen time has replaced many traditional social activities. While we have more free time today compared to past generations, much of it is spent scrolling on our phones, binge-watching TV, or playing video games—isolating activities designed to keep us engaged for hours.
📱 The average American now spends 7 hours per day on a screen.
2. Decline in Community Engagement
In past decades, people regularly participated in social clubs, church groups, after-work sports leagues, and community activities. But today, fewer people engage in these communal experiences. This leads to:
Less interaction with people from different backgrounds
Fewer opportunities for meaningful, face-to-face conversations
A weakened sense of community and belonging
How to Combat Loneliness & Rebuild Connection
The good news? There are simple, effective ways to strengthen relationships and reconnect with others. Here’s how:
1. Strengthen the Relationships You Already Have
The Search Institute has identified five key strategies to build stronger, more meaningful connections with loved ones:
Express Care – Show people that they matter.
How? Practice active listening! Put away distractions, maintain eye contact, nod, and repeat back what you've heard to show understanding.
Challenge Growth – Push each other to improve.
How? Hold loved ones accountable—not just in how they treat others, but in how they strive for personal growth.
Provide Support – Help others reach their goals.
How? Encourage, advocate for, and build confidence in one another.
Share Power – Give people a voice.
How? Respect others’ perspectives, collaborate, and empower each other to take the lead.
Expand Possibilities – Introduce new people and experiences.
How? Encourage friends to explore new ideas, meet different people, and try new things.
2. Use Social Media to Connect in the Real World
Instead of letting technology replace social interaction, use it to enhance real-world connections:
Join online groups that host in-person meetups.
Start conversations with friends online and invite them to meet in person.
Engage with local businesses and organizations that align with your hobbies and attend their in-person events.
Join your neighborhood’s group chat or community board.
3. Serve Others & Strengthen Your Community
Volunteering is one of the best ways to combat loneliness while benefiting your mental and physical health. Studies show that acts of service:
Improve mood & emotional well-being
Boost the immune system
Reduce stress & anxiety
Volunteering also fosters “bridged connections”—meaningful relationships with people from different backgrounds, cultures, and experiences. These connections expand our worldview, challenge our perspectives, and foster empathy.
When Loneliness Feels Overwhelming, Reach Out for Support
If feelings of loneliness persist or are tied to anxiety, depression, or past trauma, seeking support from a mental health professional can help. Therapy provides a safe space to:
Build confidence in social interactions
Develop communication skills
Strengthen emotional resilience
If you or someone you know is struggling with loneliness, our team is here to help. Call (801) 990-4300 to schedule an appointment with one of our therapists today.
Sources:
Search Institute: Developmental Relationships
U.S. Surgeon General’s Advisory on Social Connection
How Helping Others Benefits You
Screen Time Statistics
Bowling Alone: The Decline of Social Capital
Join or Die with Robert Putnam | Trevor Noah Podcast
A Bit of Optimism: The Cure for Loneliness with U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy